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To my sister

I still can’t believe your gone I just block you out no pictures no nothing to remind me of you yet I searched for you on the internet just for 1 pic of u but found a radio recording of ur presenter days. it ripped my heart out. I f**** miss you. Linda why did u go? why didn’t I just f**** hold on for Mom? u know she was ur biggest fan. Bobby n Jacob wish u were here. I do. Bloodyhell I hope ur happy where u r. I really do xxxxx

JERI KENDALL CEASAR

HEY SISTER, I CANT BEGAN TO TELL WHO HOW MUCH YOU ARE SO DEARLY MISSED. FIRST AND FORMOST YOUR 4 BEAUTIFUL KIDS THAT MISSES YOU EVERY DAY. BETWEEN THEIR DAD, MOM AND MYSELF WE DO THE VERY BEST THAT WE CAN BUT NOTHING COMPARES TO YOU!! ALL 4 OF THEM HAVE A PART OF YOU THAT REMINDS US SO MUCH OF YOU. THAT MORNING YOU WERE TAKING FROM US WAS THE WORST DAY OF MY LIFE. I WANT YOU TO KNOW WHEN YOU THOUGHT I WAS YOUR ROCK, YOU WERE REALLY MINE!! I MISS YOU SOOOOOO MUCH AND WOULD DO ANYTHING TO HAVE YOU BACK..MOM AND DAD IS DEFINTLY NOT THE SAME AND MISS YOU SO MUCH!!
I SEE THE HURT IN YOUR HUSBAND EYES AS WELL, HE MISSES YOU TOO SO MUCH.. YOU WERE ROCK THAT KEPT EVERYTHING GOING FOR THEM. I STILL CAN’T LOOK AT YOUR PICTURES OR EVEN TALK ABOUT YOU BECAUSE I TEAR UP. YOU KNOW YOUR BUBBA BOY AND YOUR BIG GIRL RAEGAN MISS YOU SOO MUCH. BUBBA KNOWS THAT YOU ARE IN HEAVEN AND BLOWS YOU A KISS FROM TIME TO TIME. RAEGAN HOLDS HER TEARS BACK BUT SHE HURTS AS WELL. I HOPE WE ARE MAKING YOU PROUD DOWN HERE. LET IT BE KNOW I WILL FOREVER BE YOUR KEEPER, I WILL DO MY BEST TO ALWAYS KEEP BEING THERE FOR THE KIDS. LIFE IS JUST DEFINTELY NOT THE SAME WITHOUT YOU DOWN HERE WITH US. I KNOW AND FEEL THAT YOU ARE OK AND IN HEAVEN. NO MORE STRESS OR PAIN JUST EASY BREEZY SUNSHINE..
MY HEART IS DEFINTELY AT PEACE BECAUSE YOU KNOW IF I HAD IT YOU HAD IT AND I KNOW THE SAME WENT FOR YOU. SISTER I LOVE YOU SO VERY MUCH AND HOPE TO ONEDAY SEE YOU AGAIN. THIS LIFE WITHOUT YOU REALLY DOESNT FEEL REAL OR THE SAME. YOUR SISTER JAMIE HAS REALLY MET SOMEONE GREAT AND DEFINTLEY HAS MATURED HER FOR THE BETTER. SHE WILL BE GETTING MARRIED ON YOUR BIRTHDAY JULY 23, 2017 ON THE BEACH. I KNOW YOU WILL BE SMILING DOWN, I PRAY THAT SHE GETS PEACE IN HER HEART I CAN SEE THE HURT IN HER EYES SHE WOULD DO ANYTHING TO HAVE YOU BACK AGAIN AND HUG YOU AND SAY SORRY. SHE ALSO HELPS SEE ABOUT YOUR BABIES WHEN SHE COMES DOWN. YOU KNOW WE ALL HAVE YOUR HUSBAND(CHRIS) BACK. WHEN IT COMES TO THOSE KIDS WE WILL DEFINTELY DO WHAY WE CAN MYSELF, MOM, DAD, JAMIE, JOHN, APRIL AND FARRON. NO MATTER WHAT WE ARE FAMILY AND THATS WHAT FAMILY DOES. BY THE WAY TODAY IS RAEGAN BIRTHDAY SHE MADE 12… OUR BIG GIRL…
I KNOW MY LETTER IS LONG, BUT KEEP FLYING HIGH BABY GIRL. I FEEL YOU NEAR ME EVERYDAY I KNOW YOU ARE WALKING WITH AND NEAR ME.
I WILL KEEP LOVING YOU FOREVER, YOU TOOK A PIECE OF MY HEART WHEN YOU LEFT THIS EARTH…

Big Bro from your Lil Sis

Dear K.V,
It’s been eight years since you passed. For the first 6 years I was just numb and carrying on with life as if nothing had changed. Last year, I spent the whole year crying EVERY single day. I would wake up exhausted after ten hours sleep and start my day with a three hour cry session. I was consumed with this unbearable sadness and hopeless feeling. All I could think about was how much I wanted my pain to be over and the reasons for my pain. We are two months into this year and all I can think about is how much you’ve hurt not only me, but your whole family. I’m angry not because you chose to leave us, but because you caused us so much pain. I know it was not all your fault but I can’t help but feel like if you had not killed yourself, so many people, including me, your lil sister, wouldn’t be so hurt and I’d still be the happy and bubbly person I use to be. I’m scared to love people because I’m afraid I’ll lose them too. I don’t think I can survive another great loss.

You are my annoying big brother and I will always love you but I know that I will have to spend the rest of my life with this massive hole inside of me. A hole that I will never be able to fill.

Miss you until the end,
-J.V

To my brother

To my brother,

We haven’t talked or seen each other in four and a half years. I miss the relationship we had, our similar yet completely opposite personalities, our witty and sarcastic retorts to one another, even our not so subtle disagreements, or better word for it, “fights”. You left at the worst time. You were almost finished high school and I was just starting, you were supposed to continue to be the annoyingly overprotective brother, we would avoid each other when we would pass each other at school, give me advice on subjects, teachers, life… Then you were supposed to meet my boyfriend or girlfriend, be intimidating and that stereotypical big brother act, be at my high school graduation, my university graduation, my 21st and me be at your high school graduation, your university graduation, and your 21st, and be at my wedding and me at yours and so many many many other things. There were so much that could have been, that should’ve been and now all of that is just an unrealistic dream… I love you and miss you constantly. You are, as I will never say ‘you were’, my brother.

Your sister.

My Twin

I miss you so much. It’s been 11 months since you died and I feel like you took a piece of me with you. It wasn’t supposed happen. You were supposed to have a life. 23 years isn’t enough. I know the river runs into the ocean, but I don’t want to be stuck in the Rapids anymore.

I love you so much brother.
-your twin

A month later

Hi Azizam,
It’s been more than a month later and I almost wish time didn’t move on. I wish I wasn’t so far from you and away from your soul. I miss you incredibly. Your beautiful life was too short and I get angry about that. I wish life wasn’t so unfair. I don’t know why these things happen to such innocent, kind people. You are the light of my life. Omram. You truly are and will remain to be forever. I miss your sweet voice and kind words of encouragement to me. I wish I could’ve been there for you more in the last few months. I should have flown down every weekend to be with you. I don’t know why I didn’t. I should have just quit my job and moved down. I was going to when I got the call that morning. I said, this is it, I need to be by my brother and nothing can stop me. I was too late. The pain was too much. I wanted to take away every pain you ever felt. I was supposed to be the first to go, not you. You are younger than me. You deserved this life more than anyone I know. It still hurts the same Azizam. I feel emptiness wherever I go. It will never change, I am a different me without you. I have to be. You are my light. My light feels dimmed. I wish for more signs that you can send to me. I know you were in pain, but I never thought this. I never wished this. I miss you and care about you even more, the pain increases, but then more love is filled with your thoughts, memories, things you liked… Stay close to me wherever I go. I hope to see you soon Azizam and play like we used to. Love you forever and ever.
Your Best friend,
Tash

Danny

1974, you flew like a bird of the bridge. Our cousin, Linda, took sleeping pills three weeks before. You went to join her. I thought they would have a cure for suicide by the time I reached this age. I was wrong. I will write and scream to ensure your deaths did not go in vain. We must love each other. RIP: Danny, Linda and Willow

Let’s Go for Chicken Sandwiches

Hey Helen,

Remember that Thanksgiving Day when Ma threw the roasted turkey on the kitchen floor & Georgia dutifully picked it up to rinse it & i said to you “Let’s go to the Howard Johnson’s for chicken sandwiches”? I floored the ’63 Ford Galaxie’s gas pedal & we yelled “sayonara.” Someday in the by & by we will meet & you will finally laugh with me about it.

R.I.P, dearest Helenaki.

Michael

I just don’t understand what happened. It has been 6 years and I still don’t get it. You took your own life and decided to take our mother along. Wishing we could spend an hour to make me get it. Am still just feeling like it was just a nightmare.

you had been so gentle

Sandy,
Your mental illness was a great strain to our family. It was not your fault. We have such a hard time with the mental health system, though. They let you be free to make your own deluded decisions. What ridiculous laws we have. I look at your photo and see someone gentle and quiet and respectful. And then I know the monster you became through some strange biochemical imbalance. This illness destroyed you, and caused you to try to destroy others via your imbalanced thinking. Ultimately it caused you to take your life. Was it deliberate, an attempt to cease all your troubling thoughts? Or was it fear….fear of your food being contaminated, fear of leaving your room, fear of leaving your home? Ultimately, I know you suffered greatly and for this I feel so so sad. Should I have come to you and said”take your pills, I take mine?” I feel so sad for our dad, who wanted to help you so very much. He keeps thinking of all the ways you could have been helped, if only we had known what dire straights you were in. But you cut us out. You thought we were the enemy. But we loved you. Your delusions were the enemy. You became such a bad mom since you were so afraid of strange things. yet Evelyn is so lovely. May she recover entirely from your extreme bad parenting (after such good parenting previously). I don’t know where you are now. You never claimed allegiance to Christ. So, are you burning in a hell that is worse than what you experienced here on earth, or are you in a more peaceful place, rescued by our God who always rescues those, like children, who cannot make a clear choice for him? I really really hope that Our Jesus has been merciful to you, one who claimed to reject him in earlier years.